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Christian Self Help


Fix Your Marriage


  The Line In The Sand
     - Credits
     - Forward - L. Alexander
     - Introduction
     - 1. The Dawning (Part 1)
     - 2. Incoming
     - 3. Return Fire
     - 4. Bankruptcy
     - 5. Pressure
     - 6. I'll Show You
     - 7. Liar, Liar
     - 8. Broken Glass
     - 9. Grand Canyon (Part 2)
     - 9a. No Canyon
     - 9b. Making The Canyon
     - 9c. Codependency
     - 9d. Baggage
     - 9e. The Way We Are
     - 9f. Work
     - 9g. Exclusion
     - 10. Spelunking (Part. 3)
     - 11. In The Darkness
     - 12. In The Light
     - 13. Reorganization
     - 14. The Final Chapter

     - Review - J. Talavera
     - Review - N. Beck
     - About the Author

Fix Your Marriage

The Line in the Sand - About the Author

     Born in the unsuspecting town of Moses Lake, in Washington State, Scott quickly began the journey he is still on today. His life experiences, including his good and bad choices together have allowed him to draw the line in the sand and begin anew on a completely different path.

     His basically humble, yet troubled family of origin was settled in the upper plains of Washington State near Spokane. His grandfather, on his father's side, was a rancher and farmer who had the best interests of his family at heart. His grandmother was from a very poor family in Idaho. Her part in Scott's life was important because her personality was the dominant one in her relationship with his grandfather. His grandfather passed away when Scott was eleven, and Scott remembers very little about him, mainly that he was very kind hearted.

     Enter his mother, who was adopted by her "mother" and "father," whom Scott knew as his very own grandparents. His mother was a tough lady with a tremendous fight in her heart. This attitude and personality were the direct result of her very own extremely difficult circumstances. She was orphaned very young, given away for adoption, and subsequently ended up in several situations where she was emotionally, physically and sexually abused. Her only defense as a young girl was to be tough, which she still is to this day.

     So, Scott's father comes from a family with a dominant mother, and his mother comes from an abusive, abandoned, and basically un-loving past. There is so much more to the family dynamic that there is not room for everything in this introduction to the author. Suffice it to say that the beginning of Scott's life wasn't built on a very solid foundation!

     These circumstances built the foundation of what Scott would begin to believe as truth in his little life. Mix all that with alcohol, divorce, abandonment, fear, guilt, and lonliness, and you have the young author ready to step out into the big, bad world.

     Lost in the deep-rooted misunderstandings of morality and truth, as well as no spiritual foundation, Scott graduates high school and joins the U.S. Air Force, where he serves faithfully in his work, but breaks some fundamental rules, like the one about not doing drugs. This lands the author in the military judicial process, and ultimately out of the military two years, nine months, and four days after joining. The author didn't learn NOT to do those things, only to hide them better!

     Scott married his first time in 1980 and was divorced nine months later. He had no foundation built which would help him to sustain his relationship even in the difficult times.

     He married again, and brought all this tightly packed baggage into this new relationship. This marriage is still surviving, and it still takes work, however the bond is as precious and beautiful as his bride! Married since 1985, the author is still dealing with the circumstances of his past, her family dynamics, their amazing children, and the mundane daily aspects of life-in-general. The author is filled with joy, happiness, togetherness, and an abundance of unexplainable love. Life is amazing ... now that the author can clearly see ...

     The line ... in the sand.


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